The Desire Assessment
A research-backed profile that helps you name what your longings are protecting — and where they’re leading you.
Understand the story your desire is telling.
Desire can move you toward wholeness — or toward sabotage. This free assessment helps you identify the strength of your five core longings and the patterns that may be keeping you stuck. You’ll receive insight into your desire profile and a next step for growth.
What You’ll Discover
Your core longings and how they shape your relationships
The protective strategies you rely on under pressure
Where your desire is moving you toward growth — or sabotage
A practical next step
An optional pathway into the book Desire
Make sense of the patterns that keep you stuck—and learn how to change
Why do love, success, and pleasure so often feel just out of reach? Based on a national study of 4,000+ adults, Desire reveals how your struggles with anxiety, conflict, and self-sabotage aren’t flaws to fix—they’re signposts pointing you toward healing. This book gives you a new framework for understanding the five core longings that drive your life and shows how to form desire into a force that restores wholeness, intimacy, and meaning.
Outgrow your unwanted sexual behaviors.
With over 100,000 copies sold, Unwanted has become a trusted resource for anyone seeking freedom from unwanted sexual choices. Grounded in original research, it uncovers how your story—not just your behavior—shapes patterns of struggle, and how facing your past with courage can unlock the path to lasting healing. This award-winning bestseller continues to help individuals, partners, and communities rewrite their relationship to shame and desire.
Does This Sound Familiar?
You chase love, success, or pleasure — but satisfaction never lasts.
You feel stuck in the same cycles of self-sabotage, unsure why your desire for change isn’t enough.
Your desire for connection leads to conflict, leaving you feeling misunderstood and alone.
You feel a nagging sense of purposelessness, as if the life you’re living isn’t the one you truly desire.
I believe your struggles are the beginning of your story, not the end.
I’m Jay Stringer—a licensed therapist and researcher. For 15+ years I’ve helped thousands decode the story beneath anxiety, self-sabotage, and disconnection. I believe our unwanted patterns and unmet longings aren’t a life sentence—they’re invitations to heal and grow. My work equips you to read your story and form desire into your greatest ally.
From the author of the award-winning bestseller Unwanted (100,000+ readers).
Finally, Guidance for Your Deepest Challenges
Make sense of the patterns that keep you stuck—and learn how to change
Why do love, success, and pleasure so often feel just out of reach? Based on a national study of 4,000+ adults, Desire reveals how your struggles with anxiety, conflict, and self-sabotage aren’t flaws to fix—they’re signposts pointing you toward healing. This book gives you a new framework for understanding the five core longings that drive your life and shows how to form desire into a force that restores wholeness, intimacy, and meaning.
Outgrow your unwanted sexual behaviors.
With over 100,000 copies sold, Unwanted has become a trusted resource for anyone seeking freedom from unwanted sexual choices. Grounded in original research, it uncovers how your story—not just your behavior—shapes patterns of struggle, and how facing your past with courage can unlock the path to lasting healing. This award-winning bestseller continues to help individuals, partners, and communities rewrite their relationship to shame and desire.
Ready for a Deeper Dive?
Deep-dive, personalized intensives for individuals and couples.
"For those ready to do the intensive work of facing their story and outgrow the problems holding them back, I offer personalized intensives. Together, we’ll build a roadmap for your healing and equip you with the tools to create lasting change in your life and relationships."